Being A Mom Sucks
Being a mom is hands-down the best, most fulfilling job that I have ever had. Being a mom, and hanging with my kids is great, it’s all the other details involved with being a mom that sucks. It’s a lot. The choices that a mother must make during the first few years of the their…
Boys Don’t Wear Pink
“You be the girl pup, and I will be the boy pup,” my son says to me as he hands me over the toys we will be playing with. “But what if I want to be the firefighter pup this time?” I reply. “No mama, you a girl.” Lately, these discussions have been occurring more…
It Wasn’t Me And It Isn’t You
It wasn’t me and it isn’t you. No, I’m not talking about winning the lottery, but rather the misconceived perception that a “difficult” baby is somehow a direct affect of parenting. This has been a long lesson learned, one that was not actually realized until I had my second child. My first child was (and…
Potty Training Hell
I have heard it a million times, and just like almost everything regarding child-rearing, ignored it: Potty training sucks! It is the most disgusting, semi-humiliating, and simply terrible thing that a parent has to go through.
It Is Normal To Fear The Second Child…I Think
You’ve done everything you should to get pregnant, taken the vitamins, eaten healthy, tried not to stress, mildly planned out the dates, and then bam one day you find out your having a baby…again. Only this time you are (perhaps secretly) filled with a mixed emotions of fear, anxiety, and maybe even a little dread.…
“Can I Help You?” Inside the mind of a crazy woman
Lying in bed with my husband beside me, I suddenly realize the sheets beneath my feat are wrinkled and bunched up. Without warning I quickly jump out of bed and begin tugging on the corner of the fitted sheet, compulsively attempting to smooth out the jumbled mess. It is then that my husband looks at me and asks…
Capturing The “Moments”: Why I Have A Love/Hate Relationship With Pictures
It’s a Monday Morning. Sunlight is shining in through the window and hitting the plump, rosy cheek of my little monster. He is sitting in his new, bright red, plastic “cozy coup” car which he strategically placed directly in front of the TV. His chubby little toes are propped onto the steering wheel and he is leaning back. He is wearing…
I have an angel who lives with me
A few days ago my son’s pacifier broke ( he ripped the tip of the nipple off!) “He will have to tough it out! He’s going to have to get rid of that damn thing one day,” I told my husband as he nodded his head in agreement. Fast forward two days later (and two nights…
If You’re Unhappy Do Something About It
“It’s a disaster, an embarrassment, a shame to our entire country.” “We should be proud. Change is good. No more of the same” Our politics are a mess, but no matter where your viewpoint on political issues may stand, it is finally time that we own up to our responsibility in this world. As a previous teacher I would occasionally hold conferences…
It Will Never Be 50/50
I hate it. The idea of unequal roles irritates me to no end. Two years ago I would never have believed that it would come to this. The work load with my son will never be equally shared between my husband and I, and although I wish it weren’t true, I have finally come to terms with it. …
The Silent Treatment: Three Reasons Why I No Longer Answer Obvious Questions.
Growing up I would often babble on and on about whatever new nonsense popped into my mind and my father would occasionally remind me of the age old phrase “Silence is golden.” As an adult I am finally understanding the capacity of this phrase in regards to remaining happily married. Let me set the stage for you. I am feeding the baby…
How Badly Am I Messing Up My Child?
It’s a Monday. Hot as hell and I am sitting outside on a pool chair watching my son as he cries in front of the brush used to scrub the sides of the pool. Arms extended towards the cleaning apparatus, red-faced, and screaming. Apparently going into the pool is not enough. Fast forward a day…
Growing Up: Ted Radio Hour
Driving home from Orlando yesterday I listened to the most enlightening Ted Talk on why parenting can be so difficult. If you have ever been stressed out of your mind as a parent, don’t fret you are perfectly normal. So what’s harder for you, being a parent or doing your day-job? How does the…
The Best And Worst Parts To An Honest Stay At Home Mom
I don’t miss a moment. I don’t miss one smile, laugh or hug. I am there for all of his belly laughs, his first little crawls , and those beginning wobbly steps. I get the sincere pleasure of babbling all day with my guy and going for walks, bike rides and strolls at anytime he would like. Pretty much…
I Forgot That My Husband Is My Best Friend
It’s been a little over a year since my son was born, and it seems it has almost been that long since I truly remembered how much I love my husband. It started when our son was born. What a challenge a newborn is, not only with learning to adapt to taking care of a little baby,…
6 Tips To Stop Nursing
For many people nursing has been the focus of their life for such a long time that the idea of quitting seems a bit daunting. Like any new thing, you may be dreading the day, or perhaps you are skipping around the house doing cartwheels in giddy anticipation of what is to come. Either way you have decided you will…
No Thanks
Mom. The one who takes all our crap. The person we feel ok lighting into, and then cry to when upset. The woman who can never do anything right, but also loves us the most. The one who will always help us, even when they think what we are doing is wrong. All of the hard work…
Dear Rushed Mom
Dear Rushed Mom, I get it! Mama got people to see and places to go. I understand the sense of urgency that you hold in everything you do. I completely sympathize with your feelings of being rushed throughout your tasks, all the while having a child on your hip. As a stay at home mama, I…
The Great Vacation Debate- Chidless or Childwith
Entering the realm of childless to childwith, I have discovered that in addition to every single aspect of my life changing due to my new little bundle of joy, vacations are not exempt from being completely and utterly different henceforward. The way I understand it, parents have the option of bringing their child(ren) with them and accepting the early bedtimes, frequent naps that hold you prisoner to your room,…
Make This World A Better Place
It was an unusually beautiful Sunday afternoon. My husband, son and I had just finished lunch and were walking around a local park. As I was holding my son while he splashed in the fountain, I noticed a young man in a jacket fit for a winter storm walk past us. Not thinking anything other than “why…
I am bored and it’s OK
It is the early afternoon and my eye catches the clock, “Only 2pm,” I think to myself. “4 or 5 more hours until my husband comes home, and I have nothing left to do.” I may be the only mother (of one child) in the world who feels this way, or maybe I’m just the only…
Separation Anxiety Equals LOVE?
It is the season of love. Stores are filled with chocolate hearts, roses are sold at prices competitive with gold, millions of men are guilted into buying their significant other another insignificant gift, and my son has become obsessed with me. This February I have an entirely fresh perspective on love because it will be the first Valentines Day…
4 Things All Parents Will Eventually Get Over
As I glanced down at my large pregnant belly I began to imagine what life would be like once my son was born. Images of a sleeping boy, who happily kept himself occupied, was always well dressed, and never cried, would fill my head daily. I believed that I would be the perfect mother and that life would carry…
Fail! I Swore I Would Never Be That Parent
I sat there and watched in awe as the little boy repeatedly told his parents that he was “not going to eat that!” The mother did not immediately give in and continued with her attempts at getting her son to eat what was for dinner. “If you don’t eat it, you’re not going to get dessert and we’re not making you anything…
Why I Will Always Use The Ferber Or Cry It Out Method!
It has been a long battle against sleep in the Davis household, seven months to be exact, and I can finally say that we have triumphed! Through this period, I have come to learn several things. I did not know that a human could live (quite easily…well with proper amounts of caffeine) on regularly interrupted sleep. Every hour to…
Bipolar Holidays: Four Truths To Remember
The holidays have come and gone and if you are anything like me it has truly been an utter daze, filled with manic highs and lows accompanied with alcohol, yelling, and fantasizing about getting back to your own house. Since this year we experienced something new, traveling with a baby, I spent most of November and December dreading…
Wasted Worries
I am a type A, no nonsense, want to get things done and get them done quickly kind of girl. I almost never procrastinate, have a hard time when people don’t get to the point of their stories, am always moving, and think it is safe to say, am also a control freak. Having a…
Kill Me Now! The Ferber Or Cry It Out Method! Part Two
I must begin by saying that I truly feel like the odds are stacked against me: He is in this swaddle converter suit that keeps him from fully using his arms and hands (but if you need a swaddle converter this thing is the bomb!) He uses a pacifier (thus the problem with not being able…
Kill Me Now! The Ferber Or Cry It Out Method! Part One
We are six months into mommy-hood, and unfortunately my sweet baby boy is not even close to sleeping through the night! I have literally tried everything humanly possible to get him to sleep for longer periods, (swaddled, un-swaddled, stuffed to maximum capacity with three or more feedings in a row, solid food, less naps, standing on my…
Thankful
According to Webster’s Dictionary, the definition of the word ‘thankful’ is to be glad that something has happened, or not happened, that something or someone exists, etc. I have so much to be thankful for, but rather than explain, I’m pretty sure this video says it all. In honor of Thanksgiving I encourage you to post what…
My Child Is Not A Refugee
My child is not a refugee. A blanket hangs on the side of his crib in decoration. The bottom drawer of his dresser holds four blankets. The table next to his rocking chair has never been used to place anything needing to be set down, only pretty accessories. Tonight alone I fed him three times. …
Biting: Did I Birth A Pitbull?
At three and a half months old my child began to act a little out of the ordinary. The fussing seemed to increase two-fold, all he wanted to do was eat, and the drooling was uncontrollable. Finally, one day in the bathtub I noticed something. A little white spot on his bottom gum was starting to…
To work or not to work? A win, win decision
The time has come and you now must make the ever so important, life-changing, all-impacting and possibly most dreaded decision of whether or not to go back to work. If you are like me, it will be one of the toughest decisions that you will ever make. It is a decision that will directly impact your day-to-day life in…
“I must get out” (Things a parent can do for $5.00 or less)
Whether you are a stay-at-home parent, or a working parent sometimes you just can not watch anymore Netflix, and you must get out of the house! Below is a list of my favorite things to do for $5.00 or less. Go for a walk Go to the park Go to story time at the public library…
Being a mom
When I first became pregnant I must admit that I was completely disillusioned as to what motherhood really looked like. I assumed that my child would be relatively easy; that he would wake up occasionally and spend most of the day napping. I believed that nursing may be difficult for others, but it would NOT…
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